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<h1 style="text-align: center;">How To Talk Like A Man</h1> <img src="https://media.istockphoto.com/id/1178521944/photo/men-sitting-on-a-banner-and-talking.jpg?s=612x612&w=0&k=20&c=3t2loNjfcINiocvlBa2bEgFnl-MaRPZIhDi5ANjeZvM=" alt="" width="900"> Your Aloof and Indifferent Game is top notch… Until you open your mouth. I’m going to give you a few quick tips today that will help you with your speaking in a bar, in front of a crowd, and over the phone.  A lot of being considered an Alpha is going to be the way in which you present yourself, your body language, and how you look, but a good portion of how people will perceive you will be based on your tone of voice.  You may look the part, and even act the part – hell you may even say the right things – but if your voice is shaky, full of useless filler words, or lacks the confidence a man should have, then people wont take you as seriously as you’d like.  What can you do, then, to talk like a manly man? <h3>Eliminate Filler Words</h3> The best thing you can do for yourself is eliminate filler words from your vocabulary.  Never say “um”, “uh”, “ah” or “like” when you’re at a loss for words.  Instead, just pause.  Just close your mouth and don’t say anything.  When you run out of words to say, or the right word isn’t springing to mind, instead of a prolonged “uuhhhhhhhhhh…..”, some finger snapping and maybe a profanity, try just shutting the hell up and thinking for a minute about what you’re going to say. 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Well, you know! I mean… God! I fucking hate it when that happens!”  - Don’t.  Instead, just shut up. “Honestly, the first time I heard HellYeah I thought that….” At which point I would simply stop talking because I had forgotten that I wanted to say, “they sucked harder than a gay porn star.” <h3>Project</h3> Don’t talk to the person in front of you, talk to the person behind them.  Lift your chin up and open your mouth wide, and speak with volume.  This is how you eliminate a shaky or nervous tone from your voice, by talking loudly and projecting.  If you find yourself getting nervous or shaky in your voice (if you can’t hear it, a good sign is that you feel winded while talking), stop.  Exactly where you are, stop.  Take a deep breath in your nose, hold it a second, and breathe slowly out of your mouth.  Follow with another deep breath in through your nose and then begin speaking with VOLUME!  Try and expel all of the air from your lungs with each word, opening your mouth slightly wider than you feel necessary.  Don’t yell at the person, simply turn your volume up.  This is also perceived as very commanding and this sort of tone should always be used when issuing an order. <h3>Smile On The Phone</h3> If you ever find yourself talking on the phone, continue to project as you would, but smile.  People can hear it in your tone when you smile.   In fact, you should probably be smiling any time you’re talking.  The happier you sound, the happier you’ll feel, the happier you are, the happier people around you will be – it just helps to avoid trouble in the long run. <h3>Turn Your Words Down</h3> Downturn your words at the end of sentences, as if you were issuing a command.  You’ll find when you ask questions, your voice tends to pitch up at the end.  This is a vocal cue found in most languages (that I’ve studied, anyhow) to signal that the speaker is asking a question.  However, this is redundant because in English we have certain words that indicate an interrogatory sentence: What, how, who, why, when, where.   Most of the time, people can tell you’re asking a question, even if you don’t spike the pitch of your words at the end of a sentence – so refrain from doing it. <h3>Speak From Your Chest</h3> Most people speak with a voice found in their throat, a sort of higher than normal pitch that they hold themselves to.  Speak more out of your chest, let your voice deepen.  If your voice is naturally high because puberty just wasn’t your thing, pick up smoking.  It will help deepen your voice and add that sort of gravely flair (<a href="http://thegmanifesto.com/" target="_blank">Hat Tip</a>). The benefits of a deeper voice with down turned sentences is that you sound authoritative, confident, and intelligent.  When you’re sure about what you’re saying, other people will be sure about it too.  If you say something commanding, but say it in a weak tone then you’ll sound either pathetic or rapisty.  Imagine an Alpha saying “Get in the car.” and then imagine it coming from this guy: You’ll also find that when you eliminate filler words such as “um” and “uh” from your speech, that you will have a natural rhythm to the way you speak.  You see, filler words come from a need to be heard and from an insecurity that if you’re silent for even a moment, then people will stop listening.  The truth, honestly, is just the opposite.  People are much more likely to stop listening to you when you assault them with a wall of non-stop words – they simply tune you out as background noise.  Once you eliminate fillers from your speech, you’ll see that you have a lot more pause and space in your sentence.  This makes you sound, believe it or not, intelligent and contemplative.  It sounds as though what you’re saying is important.  More people will be interested in hearing what you have to say if for no other reason than to simply know what the conclusion of your thought was. Add these contemplative pauses with a loud volume and commanding tone, and refusing to phrase anything like a question – instead choosing to phrase everything as a gentle order – will vastly improve your communication with others.  People will be more involved with you, will respond to you more (you wont have to drag the responses out of them), and will enjoy talking to you.  As a side note, they’re also more likely to comply with your requests because you both have their respect, and you’re requests seem obligatory. There you have it!  A quick guide on talking like you actually have a pair of balls!  Lets round this thing out with another video, of a real man who actually knows how to give a speech.  Here is a man who is an all around Alpha Male, who always dressed sharp, fought for what he believed in, and – due to training and practice (anyone can achieve it) – was a phenomenal speaker. President Ronald Reagan